A Prayer about Forgiving Others

And forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us. Matthew 6:12

Forgiving Lord,

Yesterday we prayed about believing in the forgiveness of sins, 

about really acknowledging the inexcusability of our own sin. 

Today, we pray about the complexity of forgiving others their sins. 

As C. S. Lewis pointed out, “Forgiving doesn’t mean excusing.”* 

So many times, we say, “But I can’t forgive that — 

they cheated me. 

They bullied me.

They abused me.” 

Exactly. 

They did something we are called to forgive. 

It is inexcusable. 

We don’t need to make excuses for what they did.**

We don’t need to say it was okay. 

We must forgive it. 

If our friend broke her promise, 

if our husband broke our hearts, 

if our boss broke our trust, 

we must forgive it. 

What does it mean to forgive? 

It is to look on their sin 

and name it for what it is, 

to pray to God 

that he will remove our resentment 

and our wish to make them pay. 

It is not necessarily to trust fully 

or to reconcile immediately 

or to restore relationship 

without the work of repentance and restoration. 

Father, you know we are utterly incapable 

of true forgiveness 

without the love and sacrifice of Christ 

working in and through us 

by your grace. 

Help us we pray 

to forgive those who sin against us. 

In the name of our forgiving Savior.

Amen

Read Matthew 6:12; 2 Corinthians 5:18; Colossians 3:13; Ephesians 4:32.

This prayer inspired by C.S. Lewis’s essay “On Forgiveness,” in The Weight of Glory and Other Essays

**As Lewis points out, we are also often better at making excuses for our own sin than we are for others.