by Elizabeth | Oct 25, 2011 | Learning Story
This morning, I come to work with a heavy, praying heart. Two people who are loved by my loved ones are this very moment undergoing surgery for life-threatening brain tumors. Another friend is recovering from extensive knee surgery. My morning’s work takes me to preparing notes on the Consummation for our Learning God’s Story Bible study, and as I study, I thank God for his unfailing kindness to all of us who struggle with suffering and sin in these sometimes sorrowful days. I thank him that the story is true: one day Christ will return, and there will be no more sorrow, sickness, suffering, or sin.
This from John Piper was an encouragement to me; perhaps it will be to you as well.
If God is going to heal us in the end, why doesn’t he just do it now?
That seems to be part of the larger question of why there is a history of redemption at all. Why didn’t God just kill off Adam and Eve after they fell and start over again with a redeemed humanity with no millennia-long struggle with sin and corruption? Why didn’t he do it that way? He could have!
He is going to snap his fingers one day and extinguish all evil on this earth. He’ll snap his finger and make us holy that day too. And if he can do it someday he can do it now. So why this long, drawn-out battle with sin and disease?
I believe that there are things that God wants to reveal—about the nature, depth, and depravity of sin, and about his own patience, love, and wisdom—that are better displayed by a long history of redemption and a lifetime of struggling out of sin and towards holiness. These things are better displayed through time than if he had simply, in an instant, taken all of my sin away and made me holy the day I got converted, or taken all of redemptive history away and made mankind holy one hour after Adam and Eve fell.
God plans that there be a long history of redemption and a long battle in every individual’s life, because in that battle certain elements of his glory, patience, wisdom, love, kindness, wrath, and justice are displayed in ways they would not be displayed if he redeemed things instantaneously.
To read the entire article, visit The Gospel Coalition website.
by Elizabeth | Oct 22, 2011 | Learning Story
The forsaken bag awaited me at the top of the stairs when I returned home.
I am busy scheduling 2012. One of the things I love about my work is how every conference is a story unto itself – the precise people put in the exact place in a singular moment in time. Small world meetings and falling-scale moments conjoin to reveal the outer limits of God’s limitless story of grace. We laugh and we weep as we soak in the cleansing downpour of his remembered love. People experience really good stories and sometimes, “this-will-make-a-really-good-story-one-day-stories.”
Last month in Birmingham, the ‘t-w-m-a-r-g-s-o-d’ moment arrived early, and thankfully, the one-day came swiftly. Let me explain by telling the story. The compassionate women of OMPC had assigned me a “body-guard” of sorts, a strong hostess who would literally carry my burdens, since I was still recovering from recent rotator cuff surgery. We arrived at her house, and she came to my car to help with my bags. I pulled my briefcase out of the front, and then went round to the rear to find my overnight bag. There in the hatch were boxes of books and a jacket. I knew right then I would not find my bag there. I flashbacked to the wonderful conversation I had had with one of my children while I loaded my car, and I guessed (correctly) I had forgotten to put it in. AWK-WARD.
Or not. The sweetness of the story did not escape me. Not long ago, I would have felt pretty intense shame over not having my “stuff,” but on this occasion, it just seemed like another opportunity to enjoy the community that is the essence of a Living Story conference. My hostess shared some basics with me (yes, she did have a new toothbrush:)!), and I was well-provided-for. Not only did I not feel shame, I was eager to share my funny story of God’s grace meeting my foibles with my new friends. They laughed with me, and I believe we would all say that one of the major points of the conference, the freedom to be real because of the gospel, came across loud and clear. As you plan for 2012, consider a Living Story conference, and if you do, expect at least two things: growth in humility and gratitude for redemption.
by Elizabeth | Oct 21, 2011 | Learning Story
“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm, therefore and submit no more to a yoke of slavery.” Gal. 5:1
In the ongoing series on a metanarrative that will sustain us as parents, we are at the really good part – redemption. Redemption is the noun for the verb “redeemed.” God redeemed his people Israel from slavery in Egypt; Christ redeems his people from slavery to sin. At the same time, God redeems the broken world through Christ and in some very strange way, through Christ in his followers. Can you see how this changes the focus of our days? Today, the first of several:
1. It saves us from saving. Let’s face it, as parents, we mostly feel incompetent (okay, maybe not you, maybe that’s just me and a lot of my friends who have told me this.) A good 2/3 of the time (maybe I shouldn’t let my kids know this), I don’t really know for certain what course to take. The reality of my broken heart is that I do want them to be happy and for life to be easy. So when it’s not, my first instinct is to rescue and redeem. I want to be their Savior. Even people who don’t believe in Christ the Savior know it’s not a good idea to ‘save’ our children from all unhappiness. The reality is that the work of saving our children is slavery for us. We will exhaust ourselves trying. Christ is the only one who can bring them true and lasting happiness, and that may not look like our picture of it or theirs.
The good news of redemption for me as a mom is that Christ is making me more like him every day, and in that transformation I am more able to wait and trust him with the things I long to control –like my children’s lives. I need to be saved from my saving, among many other things.
Stay tuned for more on how the Story of Redemption in Christ radically transforms our parenting and our children.
by Elizabeth | Oct 18, 2011 | Learning Story
Learning Your Story as an Ambassador of Reconciliation.
Today, I interrupt the Parenting Your Child’s Story to bring you this on redemption, reconciliation and forgiveness. I’m preparing this week’s Learning God’s Story of Grace lesson for Chapter 5, Redemption, and found this topic too important not to share.
We have heard “forgive and forget” for so long, but that is not really the gospel. When we say forget, we really usually mean minimizing – saying it wasn’t that big of a deal. But when we know that God created us in his image, the harm of a human being becomes about marring glory. We must name the wrecking of shalom to see how large God’s grace in Jesus Christ really is. Listen to this wonderful excerpt from an excellent article on the topic by Jonathan Dodson:
It’s Better to Forgive than Forget by Jonathan Dodson
Contrary to the popular saying, the gospel does not call us to “forgive and forget.” Forgiving and forgetting, is code for cheap sorry’s and faking a bad memory. The reality is that sin is really hard to forget, especially when you are sinned against. Funny, you’d think our sins against others would be more memorable! All too often, when I sin against my wife, resolve to be more sensitive and kind-hearted, I end up forgetting how I offended her and repeat the offense a few weeks later! Why? Because I forgot! True forgiveness stands taller in the presence of sin. Grace shines brighter in the darkness of offense. But don’t misread me here. We should neither minimize not maximize sin, throw out cheap sorry’s or berate one another with our memories. However, without the memory of sin, there is no need for forgiveness. The trick is to remember our sins, not other’s sins!
by Elizabeth | Oct 14, 2011 | Learning Story
Every child is asking, "Can I get my own way?"
“All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23
It is not considered terribly tasteful these days to say our children are born sinners. Humanism, the permeating religion of our culture, says people are basically good with occasional bad moments. This isn’t the place to argue that, but instead to note that our family story is rooted in the Christian metanarrative that includes the Fall. And besides, never has the reality of sin been more obvious to me in my own life in my interactions with my children.
How can being aware that our children, and we, are sinners, help us with parenting? So many ways, but here are a few that come to mind:
First, when our three-year-old lies to us, we aren’t stricken with horror that our child is a monster as we would be if we bought the humanistic belief that our children are basically good. No, it really shouldn’t surprise us at all that our children lie to cover up when we recognize that we are children of Adam and Eve who bought the lie of Satan that God was holding out on them and then proceeded to try to cover themselves up with FIG leaves (ever seen a fig leaf? It reminds you of something a three-year-old would do, doesn’t it – hold a leaf over their naked body and think they’re covered:)?)
Second, it gives us a natural way to help them understand God’s grace. Watch the way God parents his creation. First, he asks, “Where are you?” As I often teach, “where are you” is one of the most redemptive questions we can ask a wayward person. The idea is – you are hiding from that extraordinary, glorious creation I know you to be as created by God.
[DISCLAIMER: THE FOLLOWING STORY IS NOT BASED ON ANYTHING THAT EVER HAPPENED IN MY HOUSE. I’VE HEARD STORIES, THOUGH:)] For example, suppose your teenage daughter has stomped in the house, run upstairs, and slammed her door. (This does NOT only happen on TV:)!). You go to her room and gently knock. She says, “Go away. I hate you.” That response would be very confusing and perhaps ire-producing if it weren’t for the reality of sin. Because you love her and because you also know that this is NOT the way she was made to be, you enter her room anyway. And you ask some form of the question, “Where are you?” Hopefully, especially if you began asking this question when she was young, she will recognize that something is going on – perhaps she was hurt by someone at school and she’s somehow managed to blame it on you (If you had only let her go to that party, no one would have made fun of her.) You will be able to have a conversation about what’s going on accorded by gospel sanity. Perhaps she will turn from her anger and return to your welcoming embrace. On the other hand, that may take days, and in some cases, years. God pursued sinners – we should too.
There’s a third and very important point — about how recognizing our sin as parents affects our children, but we’re running out of room and time today, so stay tuned. Meanwhile, I’d love to know — how does the recognition of sin help you parent your children?
by Elizabeth | Oct 11, 2011 | Learning Story
what ways does your child add beauty to this world?
Yesterday I admitted that we don’t really have a mission statement as a family. Instead, we have a — surprise, surprise, story. It’s a story big enough to undergird all of our being and doing as a family. It’s a story that can be tailored for each individual and that works even when we don’t. It’s called the gospel, God’s Story of Grace, or redemptive history, by some.
And you may be (rightly) thinking — how does that story help me figure out how to potty-train our 3-year-old or to pay the medical bills racked up by our daughter’s unplanned-for bout with pneumonia? Good point. It’s not really a ‘how-to’ story, but it doesn’t mean it can’t help us as parents.
Let’s start with the first part of the story and maybe it will give us some ideas.
Creation:Genesis 1-2 You (child) are created in the image of God — that means you have incredible dignity and worth (so why would you want to wear that dirty diaper? (just kidding — sort of). Furthermore, you have a calling and a purpose — to steward the earth, to be fruitful and multiply — to add beauty (which means you should take the time to use the toilet:). What do I want my children to be when they grow up? Men and women who know their dignity and refuse to being defined or demeaned by anyone because they know their Creator delights in them. Women and men who labor with others to bring beauty to any spot on this earth they may stand today. People who know they have unique, extra-ordinary gifts and are called to bless this world with them because they have been blessed by God.
Now you tell me — can just that one part of the story (three more to come) help you in any way with any of your current challenges as parents?
